Kid Fun

well, i'm not a mom, i don't particularly want children, but if i did happen to be in a situation, i probably would keep it, maybe or not, that's another story. but anyway, today ya know i did the church thing and went to my friend's for lunch like i usually do. her daughter was there with her two kids. now the one is shy, or he used to be. so he's a little used to me now. so he's been kinda flirtin' (hey Col, you think 20somethin is young, try 3!!) LOL i guess as much as a 3 year old flirts. so anyway, ya know how some kids just don't take to people if they haven't seen them in a long time, some do. well E apparently has taken to me and i guess i'm *in with the family* so to speak LOL. he doesn't eat much. or won't. he's finicky like that. i couldn't stand it if he was my own child. he wouldn't get anything if he didn't eat his dinner, but hey, to each parent their own. so anyway, his mom is trying to get him to eat. he's fooling around, playin with toys, not eatin but one or two bites of mac & cheese and chicken tender. so he wants a roll. so i'm like, *take a bite of chicken*. thus the game began. if he ate a bite, o at first they were the teeniest bites you ever freakin saw. i'm like, *that's not a bite! big boys take big bites!!*. but anyway, if he ate a bite i'd give him a piece of roll *butter please* LOL. he's a little redhead. too cute. then, i get to be the one to read him elmo's love poem or whatever. great. LOL nah it was cute, i must admit. then, we played the *don't tickle my back but here let me lift up my shirt for ya* game, where he was all giggly and laid on his tummy, then laughed and rolled over and said (don't do thaaaaaat) all the while turning on his stomach again for more. it was just too cute.

of course every one says *ooooooh you'd be so good with your own*. uh no. i know how i would be. and that would be dictator. why? o i don't know. not that i wouldn't let a child be one, but i would just be a hard parent. i know it. i do it to the dog LOL. i wouldn't take any crap off a kid. morgan knows (my niece). i will do what i say i will do, no second chance (well ok maybe second). but definately not a third/fourth/fifth etc. my best friend gives idle threats all the time. her kids are horrible (she knows this so she wouldn't at least i hope wouldnt get all pissy if she ever read this). if i found a toy where it didn't belong and my child didn't pick it up, it'd go in the trash. if they didn't eat their dinner, well they would just not eat. at least for that time period, i mean i wouldn't withhold food. hey might sound harsh, but kids will walk all over you and never understand rules/authority whatever. least in my opinion. i'm sure there's those that would disagree. i don't believe in beating, but spanking i'm ok with. i only think time outs work sporadically. need a combination of discipline. i don't agree with any government telling me how to parent my kids (well if i had any). i was yanked up out of the grocery store screamin and kickin. no one called the police on my mom. i was spanked in the middle of the aisle. no one called on my mom or dad. i behaved after that. or i was hauled off out the door. to get a worse spankin when i got home. i would not say i feared my parents, but i feared punishment and their disappointment, least til i got to be a teen. maybe some would call would i went through abuse (my father *doesn't remember* smacking me upside the head with his high school ring on, um ok, just seems that ALL of us kids remember that, what a coincidence), but i didn't have marks, no blood was drawn, teeth knocked out (i did that myself LOL). he never yanked my arms out of the socket, and i learned to figure out how not to get caught so i wouldn't get spanked up on LOL. or to do the weave and bob in the back of the car when the hand comes back to give us a whack cause he was driving. so don't tell me how to discipline my child. i'm just sick of hearing this *you can't touch your child like that* or the people who *talk* to their children while they are having a tantrum. nope, i'm draggin your ass out kickin and screamin and you WON"T get that dessert/toy/whatever you want. i'm not for extremes, but like anything in life, need a moderate amount of discipline styles, or a combination if you will. otherwise, you will have kids like o i don't know the columbine shootings? they were *supposedly normal* right? or the ones who defy authority, or the ones who, i don't know just don't give a shit, think they can do what they want anywhere they want because they did that at home. it's really a shame.

o well i didn't mean to go on that rant but for what it's worth, there's my 2 1/2 cents on the subject.

i just wanted to say it was a *cute* day!

o and that i have two freakin cavities!!

and that i had a nice time with a new guy i met up with last night!!!

o damn i need to burn these CD's and send them out. i actually get to send one to someone right here, in marietta, small freakin world. o and one gets mailed to the UK. hope they like my music.

and it's supposed to rain all freakin week!