I know I do it
I know some of you do it. I know quite a few people who do it. But why is it when I even "know" someone does it, it wigs me out. Like knowing my brother does. *shiver*
Masturbate.
And I know when I found out about it. I was a teen. A late teenager. Not a pre-teen or 13 or 14, probably like 15 or 16. Actually probably more like 16. I don't remember exactly but I remember I wasn't in my single digit years. I'm all for pleasing one's self. I believe if my best friend did it at ALL she would not have any problems on the men she is with pleasing her. I mean, if you don't know how to please yourself, how else do you expect others to do it for you or know what you want?
Which brings me to a question. WHat IS a good age to learn? IS there a good age? Why is it wigging me out coming to the realization that my 10 year old niece might already know how to masturbate? It's not WRONG so I wouldn't want to put a stigma on it for her.
What happened is this: Last night I had my sister and niece over for pizza and tv. We were watching something on tv and everyone is under a blanket cause yea it's witch's titty cold in here. Well my sister is sitting right next to her on the couch, but I see my niece 'twitching'. It's not a twitch you do voluntarily, her little legs are kinda twitching and the top of her body. So I see her hands moving under the covers. Now maybe she does have some kinda restless leg thing, because she does like to be active and when she sits and watches tv for a while she starts getting antsy. But this doesn't look like antsy to me cause she is lookin at the tv like she's not really looking. My sister notices her twitching every now and then and keeps asking her what she's doing. My niece just says she is "dancin in her seat" and proceeds to 'dance in her seat' although you can tell this isn't the same as 'twitching'. I don't say anything. At one point my sister removed the covers but only for a second, not really to look. My niece never moved her arms when she did that. So I can't be SURE she was 'playin with herself'. But I know the 'twitch'. Hell I do the twitch. Can't help but do it cause your body is actually doing it all on it's own.
LIke I said I have nothing against getting off. But at what point should kids KNOW about it let alone DO it? I know it might be different for boys and I don't want to sound like it's a bias, but hell I am thinking it's a lot easier to figure out that if they rub it a certain way early on it feels good. I don't have that appendage so I don't know. I'm guessing my brother learned early on. I had a downstairs bedroom so I never knew when he was yankin it, but I really didn't want to know. Of course when he locked the door we knew he was doing SOMEthing in there.
When did you first learn that if you touched yourself in a certain way......it felt good??
What will or have you said to your own kids about this little part of maturing? Is it easier to deal with boys versus girls in this matter?
The only other problem I have is that it seems kids nowadays have LOTS of issues regarding some sort of abuse. WHen my niece was 8, she HAD a friend who was sexually abused and had SERIOUS ISSUES. SHe used to freak the fuck out when she thought she was locked in a public bathroom. The poor man at the park thought she was dying in there. She wasn't locked in, the door was just stuck, but you would have thought this girl was getting murdered. She even talked all the time about how this middle school girl abused her, how she went to trial and the girl got off. She was supposed to be in therapy but she only went a couple of times (YEA THAT"S gonna help). She doesn't hang around this girl anymore, but I wonder if she had any influence on my niece, because she did say things this girl would used to tell her (I told my sister not to have them spend the night together but she did anyway). My niece has a few different friends but I think this one other girl has problems already with her weight and sexuality (I think she's 9). Not that I don't want my niece to have friends. But I know I didn't care about my weight and sex at that age. I loved to eat and just hang out and play with my friends. But masturbate? I don't know to me that's just too young an age.......
Kids don't need to grow up that fast. There is no reason to yet. Now that we live longer, they need to be kids longer. Wish I had been.......
5 comments:
Wow, that was quite a post.
I can't remember exactly when I started to "jerk it". I was really young when I started.
Kids are growing up too fast. I'm still basically a kid and I know that I grew up way to fast. But I'm still learning.
Face it Red. We're old now. The shit they're learning and watching on TV nowadays was NEVER as blatant as it was when we were that age.
I still remember when Much Music wouldn't show the video Cherry Pie by Warrant because it was to demeening towards women. Nowadays the music videos are nothing but tits, ass and pussy, and if they aren't filming it they're singing about it.
As for doing the knuckle shuffle on the piss pump....a hand is acceptable, your mouth would be better!!! (insert PIGDOG here)
I was reading this and not having good thoughts, I have to tell you.
As far as masturbation -I'm all for it BUT your neice is 10. Her body most likely isn't producing the hormones yet so she really shouldn't have that urge to explore herself sexually. This to me says abuse of some sort. Either by the girl you mentioned or someone else.
The openess of her behavior suggests the issue is a little more dangerous as well. Children who are abused usually go one way or the other, they hold it in and become withdrawn with it -antisocial behavior, guilt, denial, etc. or they become overly and openly sexual. If indeed she was masturbating right there with you and your sister -it suggests this.
Just my opinion, but I think she should be evaluated by a 3rd party and her family doctor. Sometimes medical history lends to credibility when it comes to abuse -things such as frequent UTI's and also bed wetting. Seriously, I would talk to your sister about this and have it checked out now before she hits her teen years and it could be too late.
THanks LL. I really am not SURE that is what she was doing, but ya know my instinct was kickin in. She hasn't had any problems medically and her behavior seems typical enough although she does lie and steal quite a bit more than I think is typical. I will have a sit down with the sis because some of my niece's friends really aren't the greatest. Not that they aren't good kids, but apparently abuse/neglect seems to run rampant among the children around here by how some of these kids talk and behave. It really is horrible. And people look at me with three heads because I CHOOSE NOT to have children. Other people have plenty. That is just not what I want to do. I don't think it's fair and plus I like my own independence. And god only knows what I could create hahaha.
Study after study shows that people who please themselves are healthier and happier by virtually every measure known to humankind.
But there's a right time/plance and a wrong time/place for said activity. Privacy is usually a significant prerequisite before one can initiate the one-person dance.
Maybe it's just me.
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